There are times when you have had a conversation with your best friend who has always tried to knock some sense into your head. Remember the situation, when you told your partner to not to talk to their friend from the opposite sex because their meeting and greeting made you feel insecure? What happens when you share this with your best friend? They look at you with anger and tell you to stay away from your partner’s life! You never signed a deal that he/she will do as you please. What do you do? Feel sad for trying to control your partner’s life because their friends made you insecure and jealous?
While you want to be free, you always keep a track of what your sister/brother/partner does. What’s great about it? Nothing! They will eventually start hiding things from you because you do not like it when they have fun. You are not free to allow anyone their much deserved freedom. The best thing for you is to first be free.
1. Nurture people around you.
Controlling people and their actions is not you could do to lift anyone. It makes you a more insecure person at heart. Let everyone be.
2. If you do not like something, that is your problem.
You hate it when your partner speaks to his girl/boy friends or puts her/his arms around them. Really? Do you not do that with your friends? How can you expect him to not be himself with his friends?
3. Planning helps but take life as it comes.
Take a different road. Do not plan your trip this time. Go off the planned or scheduled. Be free, expect things to happen all of a sudden to you and take life as it comes. This will make you a more patient person.
4. Change your habits.
You have been yelling at your little sister to hurry up or study more each day. How does that affect her? She will learn to accept that her big brother/sister is not happy with anything she does. Are you nurturing her? No!
5. Happiness is easy.
You do not have to look at big achievements to be sad each day. While you want your bigger dreams to come true, you need to be happy with the present. Notice the little joys of life.
6. Stop waiting, start living.
Stop waiting for big things to happen in the future. Live in the now. Now is not that bad because you designed it. So stop waiting and start living.
To be free spirited is both liberating and joyous. You have lesser things to expect. You complain less from life and you are happy inside.
8. You become warm and welcoming .
Because you will think less about what people did or do, you will be a warm and welcoming person. Your friends might always be pissed with you for being nice to the person they hate but that is OK. They won’t stop loving you.
9. You are likely to fight less.
You will become such a calm person that even if people have started to raise their voices to fight with you, you will still be calm.
10. You are likely to reach places a bit late because you found a beautiful spot where you wanted to sit for a while.
Do not have to feel sad about it. People will get used to your new habit and you will be a less worried or a sad person.
So can you begin with at least giving everyone the freedom that they deserve? The rest will follow. :)